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Hey there,
Those two dreaded words in your decision-making strategy:
Wait for…
90% of people are designed to wait.
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There are the Builders:
Wait for the response
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And the Advisors:
Wait for the invitation
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And the Evaluators:
Wait for a 28-day cycle (which may
sound absolutely crazy, but I've got a new tool I
describe at the bottom).
And yes, if you think that waiting is just sitting at home
in your PJ’s waiting for a text, you can feel…
Bitter. Disappointed. Frustrated.
Thankfully, that’s not what waiting means. At least, it’s
not what actively waiting means, which is what
we’re talking about here.
Actively waiting means not forcing things
Do the things that you want to do. If you want to share on
social media, do it! If you want to stay at home and get
better at your specific skill, do it! Live your life doing
what feels good to you.
I’ll share more per-type suggestions at the bottom.
One thing I’ve noticed from experience: anytime my mind
says that I should do something, it usually means
I'm trying to force something: I don’t want to do it,
but my mind believes that if I don’t do it, then no one
will ever see me.
And what I’ve discovered is that it isn’t true. When I
force, I feel frustrated and shortly quit. But when I wait
for what my gut says yes to, I keep going because I feel
satisfied. I’m doing what I want to do, and that
is sustainable.
There’s a massive difference between just living your life
versus trying to be seen. Being thirsty: it’s not
a good look for love or life.
But Shawn, what if I’m broke and can’t wait?
Yeah, the struggle is real.
I used to try to tell people to follow their
decision-making strategy in all cases, but I've found
that when people are struggling to meet basic needs, to
follow one's design may be too hard. After all, your
mind is strong, and this is a tough fight while
you're still learning to trust it.
So now I suggest to first do whatever it takes to get
financial stability. Find something that pays you
something but doesn't leave you exhausted. Even if
it's not your dream job, steady income can remove the
need to force action. And while you're building this,
practice your decision-making strategy with less critical
questions.
After you've built some security, expand your
decision-making strategy to include decisions that have a
financial impact.
And this part is specifically for you,
Express Builder:
There's good news and bad news. The bad news is
that you're tempted to act like an Initiator and
get things started, just from an idea in your head.
And then when you get frustrated, you might just keep
pushing and pushing without feeling satisfied.
The good news is if you do Wait to Respond like
all Builders should, then you have the best of all
worlds: the ability to put thoughts in to action,
and the energy to do much of the work
yourself—something that true Initiators can only
dream of!
So always remember to be looking out for that
frustration. And if it's there, and you
didn't actually Respond to something,
pause for a bit and see if it's still
something you want to be doing. And if not,
give yourself permission to quit. It frees up
the time to do what you're really called
to be doing.
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