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Howdy partner,
I'd like to address something which periodically
comes up with people who are new to Human Design. And
it's not surprising that people can be confused by
it.
You can always do what you want
Your decision making strategy is to
wait to respond before engaging, and then follow your gut.
But don't rely on this strategy without thinking
about your relationship to it.
More importantly,
if you love to do something, do it! And
when you stop loving to do something,
stop. This is more important than a
specific strategy. So whether you do something or not
really depends on whether you like it or not.
Let's take gardening as an example. If you love
gardening, then by all means don't let the fact that
you should conserve energy prevent you from doing
something you love! It would be shame to wait for someone
to invite you to do something which is a pleasure.
Is gardening something you love or a chore to
delegate?
Same thing for social media. Some people love to create
content, post, write comments. If this is you, go ahead
and share whatever you want! For people like me who
don't really enjoy it, then it might be best to do it
only when it appeals to you, or finding some aspect of it
that you love.
Just remember, your strategy guides you in things which
aren't so clear cut. And there will always be things
like this that come up, even in the perfect job. Because
regardless of what you do, and regardless of your type,
you will not love 100% of what you do 100% of the time
(although you might love aspects of everything you do).
Advice for you
For you as a Builder with follow your gut, you can do this
pretty much all the time. I love how useful this is!
When I sit down at a restaurant and look at a menu, I used
to be overwhelmed. So many choices, and how to choose!?
Now I look at each item and pay attention to my gut. If
the gut goes "uh-huh", then that's the
thing. I spend less time thinking about what I want and
more time just doing what it says. And it almost never
leads me wrong.
Decisions rarely need to be permanent
After making a decision, don't be afraid to change
your mind. If you say yes, and decide you want to bail,
that's ok. The most important part about
not following your decision-making strategy is to
know that it's ok to change your mind.
What to avoid
What we want to avoid are the things that you feel like
you need to do, but you don't want to do.
I've written about that the last few weeks so you can
go back and re-read if you don't remember
(there's a convenient link at the top of the email).
There's a difference between the Not-Self trying to
get you to avoid something, and simple
resistance. Resistance is usually something to be
overcome (like my resistance in writing). I've found
Steven Pressfield's The War of Art a great
help for anyone who really wants to create, but still
struggles with actually doing it.
Finally, always track your signposts. If you do something
and feel frustrated about
the results, pause and re-evaluate: do you really
want to do this? Or is it your mind / the Not-Self?
And if you feel satisfaction,
you're definitely on the right track!
For you, it's all about surrender
I've written before on what "waiting"
actually means. It doesn't actually mean doing
nothing. It means surrendering to the things that are in
front of you. An opportunity to create might be the thing
to surrender to. An event which was just canceled that you
were looking forward to can also be an opportunity to
relax.
Allowing your body to float is surrender to the
water
Always be looking for these opportunities that God / the
Universe / Source is giving to you. Synchronicities are
gold. It's my experience that the more that we are in
flow (i.e. the more we follow our decision making
strategy), the more that these sorts of signs /
synchronicities appear.
The wisdom comes from being able to distinguish between
your mind telling you to do / not do something, and
surrendering to what the Universe is guiding you towards.
It's all an experiment
Everything you see here, and everything that I share in
this newsletter, is something to experiment with. Nothing
that I say should be taken as THE TRUTH. Go ahead, do
things which are completely against your decision-making
strategy. See what happens.
My personal experiment has shown what happens if I try to
initiate by myself: frustration. But that doesn't
mean I avoid anything with a whiff of initiation.
In fact this newsletter is an experiment: the site and
started writing something every week. Even though my
design says I shouldn't make promises, and that I
shouldn't act to be seen, I have both promised to
deliver something to you every week, and am inviting
people to see me.
I've been doing this for awhile now, and I've
never felt frustrated with it. Yes, I don't always
want to write (like last night), but I don't
feel frustrated with my promise to do it. And this means,
at the moment, that the experiment is a success.
And even if I do get frustrated, it's still a
success! I would know that this particular way wasn't
the way that works for me. And so I learn, and adjust. And
that continues to help align me to what matters.
Ignore those who don't really know
You too can spot the people who are faking it!
Unfortunately, even some coaches don't understand
this. I've heard people tell Advisors that they must
avoid talking about themselves until they receive an
invitation. I've been on the receiving end of an
Advisor doing a Human Design reading who never waited for
a true invitation, and just asked a series of open-ended
questions to me, a Builder who wants yes-no questions.
(Next week I'll tell you how knowing a person's
Type can be a game changer in communication)
Just remember to
follow your gut when you
are deciding who to listen to for advice. It won't
lead you astray.
And always, love and trust yourself.
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